[Rășcanu Update] Lesson 34: Own your past. Change your future.


The Rășcanu Weekly Update

Lesson 34: Own your past. Change your future.
By
Alex Rășcanu

Good morning friend,

In the "Own Your Past, Change Your Future" book, Dr. John Delony shares the following:

“We’re the most technologically advanced society in history, but we’ve never been more stressed, medicated, or lonely. We have 1,000 Facebook friends but no one to help us move our couch. The pace of life is making us exhausted. We’re all carrying the weight of our trauma based on the stories we were told by others and the ones we tell ourselves - and those stories are like bricks in a backpack that keep us from being happy and healthy."

Many of us push forward with our lives - jobs, family, goals - without realizing that unresolved pain from the past is shaping how we respond to today’s stress, relationships, and decisions.

The good news? You don’t have to stay stuck. Healing begins by getting honest and intentional.

Here are three things you can do today:

✅ 1. Reach out to a friend you trust

Instead of scrolling or liking someone's post, send a real message or voice note to a friend or family member. Tell the person something you appreciate about him/her, ask how he/she is doing, or perhaps even send a message that says: “Hey, I’ve been thinking about some stuff I’ve been carrying for some time. Can we catch up?”
Connection is the antidote to anxiety. You don’t have to do this alone.

✅ 2. Identify a story you're carrying

Ask yourself: What’s one belief I have about myself or the world that might not be true?
Maybe it’s “I always mess things up” or “I’m not good enough.” Just noticing the story - and where it might have come from - is a powerful first step in letting it go.

✅ 3. Do one thing at a time, intentionally

Whether it’s brushing your teeth, drinking your coffee, or going for a walk, do it without multitasking. Even ten minutes of slowing down, putting screens away, and being present can interrupt the exhaustion and help you be more focused and prepared to handle any challenge.


Take the next step. Don't give up. You can achieve your life's purpose.

- Alex Rășcanu

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